Happy Home School For The Blind

I have lost all hope...

i lost hope in making peace with my family
my stepmum is evil
my dad is blind..

im actually more dissapointed with my dad... his really blind... +___+
my situation is...

my birth mother passed away when i was young. and dad was arranged to marry my stepmum. I was happy for them and was happy to have half brothers.
but living with my stepmum the past few yrs, shes moody and has double standards.
Becoz she has double standards with me and her kids.
I also have double standards with her kids and my blood brother.

when she notice this behavior (that im nicer to my blood bro) she goes all frantic.
and yells at my dad for not teaching me better

she thinks that i moved in with her family.. she once asked me " would u take in somebody elses kids" and i said to her " no, why would i ,, i dun even want kids' i think she took it literally
(she reckons i moved in with her family.. so im suppose to suck up to her for her approval and affection)

anyways i think if you marry the husband , then you marry the kids also. i see so many other stepmums out there really being fair with their kids and their husbands kids. that is all i ask her.. like.. be fair..

she keeps sayin to me.. i am suppose to love all my bros since they are my dads kids also.
but shes got double standards.. only i have to do the dishes.. her kids neva.
when she makes dinner.. she only eva calls her own kids to eat first.. i only eva eat after everyone has eaten.

once i soaked a coffee cup coz it was stuck and would only come out if i didnt soaked it b4 i cleaned it. I left it at the kitchen window near the sink.( where it was away form all the other piles of the dirty dishes) that day i was mad with her.. so i skipped dinner.. knowing she would have to do the dishes instead. (i deliberately moved it far away so she didnt have to clean it)
she goes ' even her own cup she cant even clean. and rar rar rar" all frantic about it.. she cleans it and complains.. then i said ' if u didnt wanna clean it u dun have to' then she lost it and when all crazy the house turned upside down.

i dunnoe.. she has double stanards... so when i have double standards shes all nuts..
everythink is about her kids. its all she cares about..
(not that i care if she cares for me or not) like i already know she my stepmum and she will neva truely love me.
trust me.. she pretty much proved it.

its fustrating that she wants me to be nice to her kids when she isnt even nice to me.. +__+

and you know.. my half bro. and he gets lift to work. (when its close enough for him to take his bike there)
but me.. nooo its toally diff story.. when i need to go uni.. ( i have late classes and etc etc) i have to ask to take the car.. and after i get told off for using the car...(she goes all frantic to my dad about it)
( i waste petrol, since its my dad that pours the tank, its my dads money anyway. she doesnt earn anythink)

i dunnoe... i been keeping everythink bottled up.. there is a whole lot of other things i didnt mention.. i hab forgotten alot of it with all the tears sheded
and i've been really hurting for soo long.
i vowed to myself to let it all goo.. but it still hurts..
and it hurts even more that my dad is blind..
i told my dad i wana buy a car.. coz i know that when my half bros grow up his mum is gonna buy them each a new car by the time their 18.
I gave him the example of how i was in high school and i walk home in the heat with heavy text books but my half bro gets new bikes.
i go to uni.. and i have scooter it.. in the middle of the nite.. when i stay there studying late..

he once said to me.. ' u shouldnt be jealous of ur bros rar rar rar'
i dunnoe and he got really mad at me the other day when i said somthink about his wife...

i dun care if my stepmum doesnt love me.. but to have my dad stand by her side and not mine... +___+

oh and i forgot to mention.. my stepmum is fake.. when dad/ or relatives are around shes all nice and sweet to me. (which i fall for everytime... im like arghhh shes soo nice) then when ppl dissapear shes all evil again.. i now know and see through it..

dad is blind.. stepmum is evil
i already dun care about my stepmum.. but dun wanna also disown my dad

im so lost for words..
pls sugguest anyway to make my life easier sumhow

dear lord thanks for the book
yea i dont know who would actually read all that
have you thought about a therapist?

2009-02-23 06:30:53 by yesinoe

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1st off we have a total of 3kids, 1 each from prev relationship, and one together, now me and his baby mom never argued or even gotten confrontational, BUT we both dont like each other & it's obvoius. She still has feelings for my fiance, therefore it makes me uncomfortable when i see her period!! Ive tried to tell my fiance many times how it hurts me that he plays the "blind man", as if he doesnt notice how she reacts when she gets a chance to just see him. It's so many different senerios that occured that made me feel like HE has some feelings as well, but he steadily tells me he doesnt & how much he hates her,( i beg to differ) anyway yesturday morning before i left for work our baby girl was sick , too sick to leave the house, i still had to go to work so my fiance stayed home as he takes our other two kids to school daily, he told me the nite before that his babymom will be dropping off my stepdaughters school supplies, when she arrived he asked her if she could take the kids to school since our baby was so sick, my baby's health comes first, although i didnt like WHO took them, i guess i would have to just get over that part.she was very happy that he asked her to do that, Anyway this morining i called my fiance and asked for her phone# because i wanted to call her and say thanks, (genuinly) because, had she not been there to take the kids to school, my fiance wouldve taken our baby outside, He quickly told me that i would look stupid & insecure to her if i called her & said thanks, he feels because i never conversed w/ her any other time, she never does anything for their daughter,their daughter lives primarily w/ us (she's my daughter now) so why should i call & say thanks now. He said by me calling her period,she would feel like our relationship isnt going well & that she has a chance and that she'd done something that i wasnt able to do, (like satisfying him), im having mixed feelings about what he said, why wouldnt he want me to call?? will she say something he doesnt want her to say?? does he think ill argue w/ her about somthing!@?? im not sure. i just dont feel it's fair to me, had i known in the begining how they arrange things between them & how much of a snake she is, and how she still has feelings for him and trys any and everything to please him, i guess i wouldve had the option of not contiuning a serious relationship w/ him... what do you think of this??
Thanks for reading, I will take advice and say thanks when i see her again, i think I will feel more comfortable and it wont be so awkward calling her as i dont communicate over the phone any other time, but i will Thank her as this involved my kids and they come first before my feelings anyday!! i want to continue to be blessed , for not causing friction in front of the kids. I Love my fiance and all i can do is believe what he tells me for the time being, and live my life to the fullest , Thanks All..

I think being polite is always the right answer. She did you a favor, you are trying to say thank-you. It should be simple.

I also think that there are other problems in this scenario. Why is everything such a big deal? Why is your fiance so overly concerned about you two talking? Why does she think she still has a chance if he is engaged to someone else? What about how the kids feel? I would hope that your married life could be a lot calmer than this, but you and your fiance have to be able to talk honestly to each other and you have to be on the same page about how to handle a situation like this. Good luck honey.

2009-01-13 07:08:27 by katrinakatrina10

I am a 24 year old Dutch American, and my fiance, whom I've been best friends with since junior high, is a 22 year old Asian American (of Korean descent), and his doctors have confirmed that he will be completely blind in 6 months. He initially asked me to break off the engagement, saying that I deserve someone I can be happy with and not feel burdened by, but you know what - screw that: I love him more than anyone else in this world.

That being said, I want to prepare myself for the coming hardships whether they be financial or marital. We both graduated with Electrical Engineering degrees from Yale, but I must say that I'm very concerned as to whether either of us will be able to find employment, him because of his condition and myself because I may need to stay home and take care of him. He is an excellent pianist (he turned down Juilliard for Yale), and he is trying to learn as many pieces as he can while he still has sight, hoping that he can become a concert pianist. He also expressed interest in entering seminary school and going into the church ministry (we are both Methodists). Would either be a realistic occupational goal for him? Do you think it would be necessary for me to stay home and watch him, or will I be able to find full time employment? Would we qualify for any benefits from the government?

Also, we certainly would want to have children, but how would family life be with a blind father? I know this may sound ludicrous, but I'm also a bit worried as to how we would manage our sex lives. If anyone here has a blind spouse, knows a blind couple well, or simply wishes to help, I would greatly appreciate your help! The only thing I ask you to refrain from doing is asking me if I really want to go through with this. Yes, I'm prepared to face great challenges, so PLEASE don't question whether I want to go through with marriage; I am simply lacking the knowledge at this moment. Thank you!

There are challenges ahead, to be sure.
People without "disabilities" screw up all the time, because they think "life" is easy.
People facing challenges, with the right mindset, concentrate on succeeding.
So, where do YOU want to fit in?
Can you be part of the solution? Or is it too BIG of a "problem"?
I think you know your answer, because you love him.
You can DO whatever you set your mind to do. Failure is not an option.

2008-12-01 21:28:04 by Lily<3

I'm a student who always gets good grades and awards and such, but there's a girl in my class who always tries to compete with me, work-wise and friend-wise. She always glares at me trying to intimidate me and making friends with all my friends too. She's really cunning, and she uses her ' social skills'' (as in manipulation skills) to get at me.

One day when I was walking home alone, her mum came along and sneered at me too, saying that I was so skinny and my bag was even bigger than me. Her mum also said really loudly in front of my parents one day that her daughter was going to beat me in everything she does.

For example, today when I received a High Distinction and she received a Distinction, she exclaimed really loudly to her friends and in front of me: "Oh a Distinction is waaaaayyyy better than a High Distinction", and everyone agreed and shared a happy moment with her.

Also, everyday in roll call she makes herself the center of attention just so that she can make me feel excluded and I get really low self-esteem from that but no one seems to care or want to talk to me.
The thing is, everybody loves her and I can't say anything about it because of her social status- no one will believe me , or even be on my side because everything she does is so indirect. It makes me so frustrated that people are so blind, and I feel like everyone is against me.
I wish she could just leave me alone because I'm happy the way I am. I wouldn't care if she was better than me, as long as I'm not her competition, because I don't want to give her, or her family an excuse to think that they can bring me down. For that reason, I feel that I shouldn't move schools, but just stay strong. I've told my parents, and they are on my side, but it doesn't make things better at school. This situation is just making me dreary and stressed and my school life miserable.



Wow, I already feel better after typing all that.

Two things I can come up with:
1) Refuse to tell her how you are doing. Any test result, any other thing. Or just say "I'm doing well" and leave it at that. She needs a measuring stick so that she can feel better than you. Refuse to give her that measuring stick. No percentages, no grades, no details of pre-exam preparation. Just don't give her the info to measure herself against you.

Tell your parents to also just not give the info to her mom. Your parents should also just say: "We're happy with how our daughter is doing." and no details. Or if the Mom tries to be competitive, then your parents should say "We love our daughter just the way she is." Nothing more.

This kind of a girl needs to compete, so she needs that measuring stick. She will probably move on to someone who tells her how they are doing.

2) If you get some commendation from a teacher or a prize or something like that, it's better to talk it down rather than to talk it up.
So say "yes, it was nice but we'll see how I do in the midterms."
Never say you didn't earn it, but try to make a small deal about it.

3) Agree or say thank you. This means purposefully playing stupid and not understanding how some hurtful things are meant. So that skinny remark... well, it means you are petite and that's good. You could have smiled and said "thanks, i try to keep myself in shape."
Similarly for the distinction: "you're so right, distinction is better than a high distinction." This strategy takes a lot of balls, as you have to remember that you are saying these things as a strategy. In the back of your head go: "you b****, not going to give you the satisfaction of upsetting me" or "what planet are you from? high distinction is clearly much better than a distinction, that's why it's a 'high' distinction"
Then go home and vent. But the key is to take you out of the game.

Never ever believe these things! Keep your own head straight.

You should also tell your teacher (depending on how many of them you have) that you'd like feedback one-on-one because of the competitive atmosphere in the class.

Know that you are so good that you don't have to brag anymore. You can just do your own thing. Celebrate your achievements by yourself (think of things you like to do) or with your parents, but

Girls like your friend usually have poor self worth but that makes them dangerous. You will never win in her game, so just refuse to play it. But it is a game and it has strategies, ultimate objective: making you feel bad so she can feel better because she secretly envies and respects you. So if she's better than you, she must be good. In the end it just means that she'll never be as good as you, because you can just be quietly confident.

Good luck! It will take a while for the situation to calm down, but don't change your tactics. She'll up her game first when she notices that you don't want to play to draw you in, then she'll back off. Stay on course.

2008-09-08 23:27:45 by Susie

need opinions is all this because our dad is upset about our brother being stillborn? : this is me and my 3 sisters when i say we thats who i mean

12:30am:
(eastern time) we left for the hospital cause our mom had gotten worse and we arent listening to our dad anymore as to not coming to the hospital we want to see our mom
1am:
we saw our mom but our dad just walked out and didnt even akknowledge we were there
2am
we get home and dad is drunk in the living room and there was a pill bottle in his hand/ so we take him to the ER and on the way hes telling my 3 sisters he hates having daughters and wishes his son wasnt born stillborn then he tells me he regrets ever adopting me and that i was a giant waste of his time
2:20am
we get to the hospital
4am
we find out that he didnt take any of the meds
5am
talk to dad about if he meant anything he said on the was to the ER (hes sober now)
5:15am
hes making us leave
6am
a shrink talks to our dad to determine if hes totally suicidal or just reacting to everything
6:45am
hes not suicidal well he is but as long as he talks and us girls support him he probably wont try it again
7am
see mom again and get told to leave by dad
7:20am
drive home
7:50am
home and message from dad on the answering machine saying (i am quoteing this its from his point of view so try not to get confused)
message said:
"girls, its dad and im coming home to apologize because your mother made the point of no matter what happened with the baby i have 4 teenage girls that love me and need me and if i run off like a wuss and comitt suicide you girls could end up without parents and you guys need me just in case something happens to your mother"
8:15am
dads home he walks through the door and he hugged each one of us and he started crying and he makes us all go to the living room with him and he sets us all down and says
"I totally turned a blind eye to the fact you girls need someone in this hard time and that you girls couldnt go through something like this alone, I was being selfish and i didnt mean anything i said in the truck on the way to the ER, i love having daughters and i dont regret adopting you, i was mad because i wanted to die alone and when you girls caught me i said all those mean things to you because i was hiding how mad i was at myself for thinking about leaving you girls, your my world and its pretty sad when it takes something like this for me to realize it,........im so sorry"


okay so was he kinda acting out like a little kid? opinions and how can we make him happier again after his only son was still born? we want our dad to know we still love and trust that he truly didnt mean any of that but we want to show him what he did to us hurt and we probably hurt him somehow to but we would never tell him we hate as our dad..........pls help us we are 16,15,14, and 12 yr old girls who wanna show our dad we love him but he really hurt us

none pf us girls hate him or anything we accepted his apology and hes being nicer and talking with us about how we feel but we just want to make sure hes ok and not suffering worse inside and that hes not just hiding his hurt to protect us we can deal with it better cause we didnt hold our brother or see him or anything and we all want out mom and dad to be our first priority because thme being ok is what mattyers to us right now
our mom is extremely sick in the hospital we havent seen much of her cause we werent allowed to thats y i didnt mention her yea dad said shes pretty broke up and we just them both to be okay and my sisters and i have talked to each other and we said we will deal with our feeling later we wanna help our mom and dad

my bond with my adopted mom isnt as strong compared to my adopted dad because my dad teaches at my school thats how he found out i got beat and stuff and he decided to adopt me so i have know him for 2.5 yrs and my mom and sisters i have known for 2 yrs so my dad and i are just closer
we just dont know how to make him understand he means everything to us and what hes been doing hurts........alot and we want him to understand that we know mom needs him a lot but we still need him we are teeneages who need a dad still and we are being string for him but taking him to the er and not breaking down and cry and complaining to his face that we want to talk about how we feel it should be him and mom time but we need him just a little bit how do we tell him that?

i think it was a way to avoid dealing with the baby loss.he probly could not handle that ,so everything else was to stop the thought process. well, just be there and ease him back to the regular daily routine. don't make too many demands, and let him heal. oh an don't take his remarks too serious. he loves you,he just slipped away from reality a little. there will be plenty of times when the roles are reversed an you and ur sisters lose your sense and your parents do the same for you.

2009-08-19 18:25:06 by Sarah